For those of you who were not able to attend MOMS or if you have a mom friend who would benefit from this, here are the bullet points from my Premeditated Parenting talk.
An Encouragement to all moms:
- Moms- know who you are as a parent; be comfortable and confident in it!
- Premeditated: The act of arranging, plotting in advance; prior resolve; the contemplation of an event well enough in advance to show deliberate intent; forethought.
Here are just a FEW verses from God on the topics of parenting and children.
- 2 Timothy 3:16-17 All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work. (NLT)
- Deuteronomy 11:18-19 Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. (NIV)
- Proverbs 19:18a Discipline your son (or children), for in that there is hope; (NIV)
- Ephesians 6:4 Fathers (or Parents), do not provoke your children by the way you treat them; instead, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. (NLT)
- Colossians 3:21 Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. (NIV)
- Proverbs 20:11 Even children are known by the way they act, whether their conduct is pure, and whether it is right. (NLT)
- Ezekiel 16:44 “Everyone who quotes proverbs will quote this proverb about you: ‘Like mother, like daughter.’” (NIV)
Seven Key Principles of Premeditated Parenting
- Determine what your big picture goals are for your children and your family; knowing this will help guide your choices, decisions and plans.
- Plan ahead of time, and continually how you will move your family toward those goals.
- Unconditional love must be what motivates our parenting and relationship with our children
- Instruction should be both formal and informal starting even before birth! Some of the best lessons are “caught and not taught”. Look for those opportunities.
- God says we as parents are to be in authority of our children, under His authority. But, who is in “control” of your family? J
- Reward, both external and internal, punishment and natural consequences are used to reach the goal of discipline.
- We need to consistently
adhere to and continually apply these principles. There should be
- Consistency between parents
- Consistency between word and deed
- Consistency between children **The principles remain the same, but the motivation and techniques used may differ per child.
- We need to consistently adhere to and continually apply these principles. There should be
Three go-to verses for #momming
- 10 For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:10 (NIV)
- 7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7 (NIV)
- 9 So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. Galatians 6:9 (NLT)
Resources and References:
- www/christianity.about.com/od/parentingresources/a/raisekids4god.htm (collection of websites)
- http://weirdblog.wordpress.com/2007/02/22/personality-types-lion-beaver-otter-and-golden-retriever/ (This includes a link to how to communicate between the animal temperaments)
- The Free Dictionary
- Miriam Webster
- Ken Ham, Hillard Todd, C. Britt Beemer, Already Gone, 2009 Master Books, New Leaf Publishing